Everything We Believe Marriage Is Wrong

✨What I was thinking is that Everything we Believe About Marriage Is Wrong;

1) You do not find the right person. You become the right person and then recognize them when they appear.
2) Most marriages do not fail because of big betrayals. They fail from a thousand small moments of neglect.
3) Marrying someone hoping they will change is just expensive disappointment with a ceremony attached.
4) The spark fades for everyone. What remains is either a foundation or an exit strategy.
5) Couples who never argue are not more compatible. They are more afraid of honesty than the average pair.
6) You cannot build a strong marriage while both people are running from themselves individually.
7) Most people are not looking for a partner. They are looking for a mirror that only shows good angles.
8) The person you marry is not who they are on the best day you have ever seen them together.
9) Children do not save struggling marriages. They accelerate every existing crack already present.
10) The most romantic thing in a long marriage is still choosing to show up on the completely ordinary days.
11) What you tolerate in the first year sets the standard for everything that follows every year after.
12) The biggest relationship mistake is waiting until things break completely before deciding to fix them..💞

The Fortune of a Shoeshine Dreamer

The CEO of a major Mumbai bank got his shoes polished every day from the shoeshine man at the street corner.

He would sit on a chair usually reading the Economic Times as he got his shoes polished.

One fine morning, the shoeshine man asks the CEO: "What do you think of the stock market situation?"

The CEO condescendingly inquires: "Why are you so interested in this subject?"

The shoeshine man replies: "I have 200 crore rupees deposited in your bank and I am thinking about investing part of the money in the stock market"

The CEO smirkingly says: "Yeah right! What is your name?"

Shoeshine man replies: "Asaf Kutty Chacko ”

Upon returning to his bank, the bemused CEO asks the Account Manager: "Do we have a customer named *Asaf Kutty Chacko*?"

The Manager replies: “We certainly do. He is an esteemed customer! He has 200 crore rupees in his account.” 

The CEO is shocked!

The next day, when getting a shoeshine, the CEO says to shoeshine man:

"Mr. Chacko, I want to invite you to be our guest-of-honour at our Board meeting next week and tell us your life story. I'm sure we will learn a lot.”

The following week, at the Board meeting, the CEO introduces shoeshine man to the board members:

"We all know Mr. Asaf Kutty Chacko, who makes our shoes shine like no one else. But he is also our valued customer with 200 crore  rupees in his account. 

I invited him to share his life story. I'm sure it will be inspirational. 

Please, Mr. Chacko, do tell".

Asaf Kutty narrates his life story: 

"I came to this state 30 years ago as a young boy from Kerala…. 

I wandered hungry and exhausted in search of a job without success….

Suddenly, I found a coin on the sidewalk and bought some apples….

I had two options: eat the apples to quell my hunger or start a business….

I sold the apples and bought more apples with the money….

This way I started accumulating money…

With the saved money, I managed to buy a set of used brushes and shoe polish and started a shoe shine businesss…..

I lived frugally and didn't spend any money on fun or worldly trappings. I lived like a monk and saved every paisa I could….

After a while, I managed to buy new brushes, variety of polish and a chair so that my clients could sit comfortably….

I continued living frugally and saving all I could…

Then, a few years ago, I was able to purchase this nice corner location from another colleague who decided to retire…

Finally, about three months ago, my brother, who was a drug-dealer in Kochi, passed away and left me 200 crores ….” 

This is just a campaign to promote reading. 

Reading stimulates the mind and imagination! So stop listening to unbelievable stories and start reading something of literary merit. 

Discipline and Strength Through Krishna's Wisdom

 🔆 Conversations for Inner Strength: The Power of Discipline

​1. Arjun: I always start with great enthusiasm (motivation), but after a few days, the fire dies out.

✅Krishna: Motivation is unreliable; it is like a spark that lasts only a moment. Discipline is the fuel that keeps the fire burning. Do not rely on how you feel; rely on what you do. Motivation gets you started; habit keeps you going.

​2. Arjun: But what should I do when I honestly just don't "feel" like working?

✅Krishna: That is the trap. You believe you need to "feel good" to act. A warrior does not wait for the right mood to fight. You must learn to separate your feelings from your actions. Do the work because it is necessary, not because it is easy.

​3. Arjun: Discipline feels like a cage. I want to be free to do what I want.

✅Krishna: That is an illusion. If you cannot control your own mind and impulses, you are a slave to your moods. True freedom comes from self-control. Discipline is not a prison; it is the key that unlocks your potential.

​4. Arjun: It is painful to force myself every day.

✅Krishna: Remember this truth, Arjun: "The pain of discipline weighs ounces, but the pain of regret weighs tons." You must choose your pain. Would you rather sweat now or cry later?

​5. Arjun: I try to change my whole life in one day, and I fail.

✅Krishna: You are trying to swallow the ocean in one gulp. Consistency beats intensity. It is better to do small things 100% of the time than to do a big thing once in a while. Small, boring, daily actions compound into massive success.

​6. Arjun: What is the secret to staying consistent?

✅Krishna: Stop negotiating with yourself. When the alarm rings, do not ask yourself, "Do I want to get up?" Just get up. When you start debating with your mind, your laziness will always win. Make the decision once, and then follow it blindly.

​7. Arjun: How do I become the master of my own will?

✅Krishna: By keeping the promises you make to yourself. If you say you will read 5 pages, read 5 pages. Every time you break a promise to yourself, you weaken your soul. Every time you keep it, you build an iron will.

​💡 A Small Tip

​The "Don't Break the Chain" Method:

Get a calendar. Every day you complete your specific task (e.g., studying for 4 hours), mark a big X on that day.

After a few days, you will have a chain. Your only goal is: Don't break the chain.

The visual pressure of seeing the chain grow will push you to do the work even when you feel lazy.

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Life Lessons from 2025

 A few lessons learned from 2025:

1) Life has a way to give you what you want after you give up on chasing it directly.

2) Never open up about your financial issues with anyone. That may change their perspective of looking at you.

3) The best conversations happen serendipitously between people with no agenda.

4) If you are not becoming more humble as you get older, you are running in the wrong direction.

5) Always try to get married to someone thoughtful who genuinely cares and who is committed to building a better life together, you’ve already won the lottery.

6) My sisters have kids and when I look at my sisters I realise that , Kids completely change your routine, but it doesn’t mean you will be less productive, you just need to be more efficient with your time and focus on the right things.

7) If your environment doesn’t reflect your vibes, the faster you have the courage to move on, the earlier you will start getting lucky.

8) You can always take a good guess at how much time you have left with your loved ones, it’s up to you to make the most of it, for them but also for you.

9) People who don’t grow much are just people with too much pride and not enough humility to question their methods.

10) Everyone should have one hobby that forces them to be the healthiest and physically strongest version of themselves, and another hobby that forces them to maintain mental sharpness and bold creativity.

11) Lack of courage to speak your mind ruins all relationships regardless of your intentions.

12) The most talented people don’t take themselves seriously, otherwise, they wouldn’t have made all the necessary mistakes to get where they are.

13) Being well-dressed and aesthetically pleasing is underrated, for yourself but also for others; most people who claim it’s narcissistic just don’t have the discipline to make the efforts.

14) People with clear and ambitious goals, and a loving family, don’t have the time or the energy for any unnecessary drama.

15) Introducing people who might get along great with each other is an underrated habit.

16) You are more resilient than you think, especially when you do things for people you genuinely love.

17) Nomatter how much you love someone, you can't be their choice and expecting it to be is also not correct. 

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#2025 #2026